“When you live an intentional life and make your own decisions, you come to see the paradox of your personal sovereignty. To follow blindly your own desires will create a prison of constant cravings and longing, from which you cannot escape. To refuse your desires creates another kind of prison, one in which you feel ashamed, guilty, resentful, or even psychologically dead. To engage in your desires, with the recognition that they will teach you about your limitations, your vulnerability, and your conflicts, as well as your strengths, will lead to the discovery of your own nature, of who you are.”

~Polly Young-Eisendrath from Women and Desire